Nurturant parent model

The nurturant parent model is a parenting style which envisions a family model where children are expected to explore their surroundings with protection from their parents. This model believes that children inherently know what they need and should be allowed to explore. The parents are responsible for protecting their child during this exploration, including protecting their child from themselves by offering guidance. A child will be picked up if the child cries because the parent wants the child to feel safe and nurtured. If a child grows up believing that its needs will be met, it will be more confident when facing challenges.

Ideas involved in this model include:

• True discipline is not a matter of strict obedience, but of respect and compassion.
• The world is no more inherently hostile than it is inherently friendly; it merely commands respect.
• Respect and compassion can only be taught by example.

This model is based on a study conducted by the Boston College Graduate Program in Human Development, when researchers were investigating the kinds of parenting done by the parents of extraordinarily creative children. The three kinds of parenting are typically cited when discussing parenting styles: "Authoritarian" ("do as I say or else"), "Laissez Faire" ("do anything you want") and "Authoritative" ("here are the boundaries/rules, act within them and you'll be okay, but act outside of them and there will be consequences"). In most parenting books the "authoritative" style is what is recommended. These researchers discovered a fourth style of parenting that they called "the nurturing parent." This style focuses on responsibility, empathy, and creativity. The basic parenting approach that these parents took included:

1) Trusting in their children's fairness and good judgment. 2) Respecting their children's autonomy, thoughts, and feelings. 3) Supporting their children's interests and goals. 4) Enjoying their children's company. 5) Protecting their children from doing injury to self or others, not by establishing rules, but by communicating values, and discussing their children's behavior with them. 6) Modeling the self-control, sensitivity, and values they believe their children will need^[1]

There is an acronym for this type of type of discipline, "RECEPEE". In a book-in-process, Caring Parents: a Guide to Successful Parenting, by Clinical Social Worker Herbert Jay Rosenfield, LCSW, he encourages "Reasonable Expectations, Clearly Expressed, Performed Everyday, and by Example".

The nurturant parent model is discussed by George Lakoff in his books, including Moral Politics and Whose Freedom? In these books, the nurturant parent model is contrasted with the strict father model. Lakoff argues that if the metaphor of nation as family and government as parent is used, then progressive politics correspond to the nurturant parent model. For example, progressives want the government to make sure that the citizens are protected and assisted to achieve their potential. This might take the form of tough environmental regulations or healthcare assistance.

The model is also consistent with Slow parenting, in that children are encouraged to explore the world for themselves. They have to learn to face the risks that nature presents. Although Slow parenting might go further and reduce the level of protection offered by parents, it would not advocate withholding it entirely.

See also

• Strict father model
• Slow parenting
• Parenting styles
• Dr Spock

Reverend George Englehardt stated succinctly, in 1991, that "parental responsibility is to provide their children with a 'safe, loving, nurturing environment'".

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