- Love-hate relationship
A love-hate relationship is a personal relationship involving simultaneous or alternating
emotion s oflove and enmity. Sometimes the person may love the other person/object, but hate oneself for it. This relationship can, but does not have to, be of a romantic nature. It may occur when people have completely lost theintimacy within a loving relationship, yet still retain some passion for, or perhaps somecommitment to, each other.It is used most frequently in
psychology , popular writing andjournalism , much more so than in everyday discourse, and almost never amongst the individuals of whom it is predicated. It can be extended to relationships with inanimate objects, or even concepts. [ [http://www.economist.com/world/europe/displaystory.cfm?story_id=10553024 Russia and Britain | A love-hate relationship | Economist.com ] ] In popular journalism, it is often employed speculatively by writers to explain the relationship between celebrity couples who have been divorced, then who reunite (notablyElizabeth Taylor andRichard Burton ).A related theme is "obligatory
friendship ", where usually one party feels indebted to another and forges a friendship but still holds agrudge over a particular past disappointment or set of disappointments, while the "creditor" in the relationship agrees to the nature of the relationship often for security reasons, but remains aware of the "debtor's" grudge and feels counter-indebted until the cause of the grudge is sufficiently overcome.It can be argued that, due to the fact that the subjects love each other despite issues they have, a love hate relationship actually represents a stronger bond than a simple love relationship does. Also since a constant hatred is felt, any new issues which emerge are unlikely to put the relationship in jeopardy.
In fiction
A love-hate relationship is a familiar feature in all kinds of fiction, from
soap opera toliterature , although (especially in older examples) it is not always named as such. In drama, it is often deployed to create tension between characters, and it is frequently employed as aplot device inromantic comedy . A narrativearchetype is sometimes that the protagonists end up living happily ever after.A common feature in (comic) fiction is that the protagonists in a love-hate relationship might term it a hate-hate relationship in moments of especial antagonism.
ee also
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Ambivalence
*Love
*Love triangle
*Hate
*Jealousy References
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